Oh, ladies… First of all, if you are reading this, we all know how you feel! Sex after baby can be downright scary, and for the first few months (or more!) after the birth of your little one, it might be the absolute LAST thing you EVER want to do! That is totally normal! But, if you are ready to get your groove back, read on the following tips to help you get ready to get back in the saddle!
Tip #1: Take Care of Yourself First
If you are exhausted, lonely, and frustrated, you are probably not going to be in the mood. So, take time to take care of yourself first. Take a nap, catch up on sleep. Go visit a girlfriend for lunch, take a bubble bath with your husband or watch a chick flick. Come on, you know you deserve it. The old saying: “If mama ain’t happy, nobody’s happy….” Absolutely 100% true.
Tip #2: Try Self Hypnosis
Re-ignite your sexual desire back with the help of alternative therapy such as self hypnosis. As the saying goes, “the mind is the biggest erogenous zone” and hypnosis has been scientifically proven to help one relax and re-condition your body and mind to be receptive to the wonderful enjoyment of great sex.
Tip #3: Give Yourself A Boost
Getting up and active and exercising can get your blood pumping and your heart rate up, and make you feel more ready for sex. Try to be active for at least 30 minutes per day to keep your libido from bottoming out and making you feel even worse.
Tip #4: Try A Supplement
There are a ton of natural herbs, vitamins, creams and supplements out there that are proven to enhance a woman’s libido. One of the most common herb is ginseng. Alternatively, there are also supplements such as Provestra that can aid to increase a woman’s uninhibited desire or arousal cream for busy women like Vigorelle but there are tons more. The best part? They are all safe and natural.
Tip #5: Reconnect With Your Partner
Remember that guy? The one you fell in love with? Enough to even have a baby with? Think back to when you first fell in love with him. That guy is still there. Go on a date to somewhere you used to go pre-baby. Spend some time together just the two of you. Laugh, talk, whatever. Just take a little bit of time to be a couple instead of “mommy and daddy.” You will notice a big change!
Tip #6: Talk With Your Doctor
If an extended amount of time has passed by and your sex drive is still not improving, speak with your doctor. Do not feel embarrassed or ashamed. Sometimes there can be an underlying physical cause for decreased libido and your doctor can help you figure it out!
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Great tips! I completely agree with taking time for yourself. Getting enough sleep and food is key. You’re not going to want to connect physically if your basic needs aren’t being met.
I also read somewhere that new parents often fall into the “daily report” trap in conversation. This is where you just tell your partner a report of what’s going on with the baby, your job, and household. “Baby ate 3 oz. of milk at lunch, we need to pay the electric bill, etc.” are not exactly thought-provoking or interesting conversations to have. Every day make an effort to talk about yours and his interests. Listen too. Even if it’s for 5-10 minutes. I guess this falls in with the tip above about reconnecting with your partner.