A child has the right to be taught everything that will equip him with the skills he needs later in life. Training your child to care will help him connect to the world around him. Guiding him to complete competency will help him be a constructive part of the world. Allowing his confidence to grow will give him the self-assurance he will need to be a caring and competent person, ready for what the world may present him.
As a parent, you’re already strikingly aware of the fact that your job is all responsibility and accountability. Your financial situation may not be what you want it to be. Your environment may not be perfect as you had always hoped when thinking of becoming a parent. View challenges as an opportunity, use them to your advantage and teach your child that despite his circumstances, compassion and respect are still a number one priority.
All children are born with a basic nature that will be cemented by your guidance. That means that for some it will be harder to learn certain concepts than others. With good guidance, you can teach your child to aim higher. For example, determination is one small step away from stubbornness. Yet determination is far more socially acceptable and it holds a lot more promise for personal, emotional and work achievement as opposed to its negative counterpart, stubbornness.
How To Teach Your Child To Be Caring
To be compassionate takes a degree of complex understanding that many children and indeed adults, have yet to master. Putting yourself in someone else’s shoes requires some prolific thought, and acting on it requires selfless sacrifice. Teach your child to be concerned about the well-being of others by using these tips.
Practical Tips for Teaching Compassion
- Be compassionate towards others yourself, not just for your children or immediate family. Be a good example of what you want your child to learn.
- Concentrate less on your child’s emotions and help him to recognize other people’s emotions. Spend time talking to your child about what other people may be feeling. Ask him how it makes him feel to see someone else physically or emotionally hurt. Offer suggestions that he can use to help someone in that situation.
- Encourage seeing things from a different perspective. Remind your child that there is more than one way to view a situation. For example, if your child spends all day wondering when the rain will stop so he can go play outside, remind him that farmers depend on the rain for healthy crops.
- Let your child do something for someone, without expecting anything in return.
- Encourage respect in your home and toward others. Respect has different degrees depending on the age and cultural status of the person, but the foundation is unchanged. Basic politeness should be a requisite for all interaction with people and even animals.
Building confidence is all about trust. A child not only needs to trust you but he needs to learn to trust himself. Trust is one of those things that can take a lifetime to build up and a matter of minutes to break down. Before you take on building a child’s confidence, you should ask yourself what your role as parent or caretaker is in this situation. Ask yourself what it has been up until now and what you think it should be.
Mistakes are a vital part of the process. Unfortunately many parents concentrate too much on the extremes. Over-praising your child will make him feel like he has to constantly perform at a high level to keep you pleased. Whereas judging your child harshly for a mistake made can confuse him and diminish his willingness to try again next time. Try to find a balance between the two. If mistakes are not dangerous or life-threatening, take the opportunity to rather turn it into a learning exercise. Ask your child if he can think of alternative ways of tackling the situation and allow him to pursue the one he chooses. By supporting your child rather than trying to control the situation, you will show him that you are giving him room to improve, but also that you are confident of his capabilities.
Practical Tips For Confidence Building
- Reserve praise for something really worthwhile.
- Give your child constructive advice. This means, if your child has attempted to tie his shoelaces for the first time but didn’t quite get it right, it IS ok to show him how to do it better next time (or else he will never learn). You will not break his confidence by showing him how to improve. You could, however, break his confidence by admonishing him for getting it wrong.
- Let your child try. Provide your child with the occasion of showcasing his new-found confidence, build it up and allow it to flourish through practice.
- Give your child your support and not your control. Doing everything for your child and breathing down his neck to ensure that it is done just so is not going to get good results. Let your child develop his signature methods in his own way and in his own time.
Be patient, your child won’t learn all the skills he needs overnight. A competent child is first and foremost a confident child. Communicate regularly with your child. As parent, you are his first point of reference. Encourage him to go one step further and acquire knowledge and skills in parallel with what he’s already been taught.
What most experts agree on is consistency and unity. As a parent, you’ll have to keep your energy up to remain unswerving and to model the behavior you would like your child to adopt. Talk to your partner or spouse about the methods you’d like to use and write down the points. Grow with your child and see things from his perspective, Try to allow your child to develop his emotions ever more independently from you as he matures. Remember what they see you do will always take precedence over what you tell them to do.